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The Conversation I Almost Missed & the Future It Could’ve Cost

Tuesday, August 11th, 2015

“I thought it was my job to teach my children a lesson. But what I was teaching them was that I could never be satisfied. I was teaching them to confide in someone else -— someone who would be more understanding and less reactive. I was teaching them to strive for perfection, no matter the […]

On Controversy

Sunday, July 5th, 2015

A minister who was about to publish an article criticizing a fellow minister for errors in his theology, wrote to John Newton of his intention. Newton’s reply was meant to reference controversies in theology, but I find it to be helpful for many of life’s controversies. Dear Sir, As you are likely to be engaged […]

Teaching our children “empathetic assertiveness”

Saturday, July 4th, 2015

By Lena Aburdene Derhally “…I have seen anxious people do things that make them uncomfortable because of guilt. I have seen people let others push and bulldoze their boundaries because they felt bad about saying “no” to someone or didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. Again, while it is of the utmost importance to be […]

If my daddy does not like me, why would God like me?

Monday, February 9th, 2015

Please read this article. In the end, Emily did not want to tell me how her husband was a big culprit in Sara’s rebellion because Emily felt hopeless that Ryan would ever change. Rather than being honest to me about the situation, she presented it as teen rebellion and wanted me to fix her daughter…. […]

Please Read This Book

Wednesday, November 12th, 2014

Excerpts from Your Family God’s Way: Developing & Sustaining Relationships in the Home by Wayne A. Mack Here is a recipe for a communication disaster — four ingredients: 1. Excessive Negative Talk “Some people constantly complain and find fault. They seldom affirm or talk about positive virtues of other people. They rarely acknowledge the good […]

Make Us Peacemakers

Monday, May 19th, 2014

C.H. Spurgeon was talking about strife in the church here, but we can easily apply the principle to any organization or group of people. “…The fire of strife is a terrible evil when it breaks out in a Christian church. … Those who feed the fire deserve just censure, but he who first kindles it […]

The narcissist doesn’t care about your pain

Wednesday, May 7th, 2014

Narcissistic Apologies by Dr. David Orrison “I recently read yet another statement by a well-known Christian leader confessing sin and asking for forgiveness. It was one of those apologies that leave you with a bad taste in your mouth. I would say that it was a narcissistic apology…. Read the rest of this article here […]

Communication Time-bomb

Thursday, March 6th, 2014

Here is a recipe for a communication disaster — four ingredients: 1. Excessive Negative Talk “Some people constantly complain and find fault. They seldom affirm or talk about positive virtues of other people. They rarely acknowledge the good things happening in the world or in the church or in their family. They are experts at […]

Two Types of Critics

Thursday, April 11th, 2013

There are two types of critics/criticism: 1. The educated critic/criticism — This is a balanced critic/criticism, analyzing opposing viewpoints in order to find truth. He is not afraid to listen to others and will gladly consider other viewpoints other than his own. Children learn this type of behavior from their parents. 2. The pervasive critic/criticism […]

A Communication Time-bomb

Friday, March 29th, 2013

Here is a recipe for a communication disaster — four ingredients: 1. Excessive Negative Talk “Some people constantly complain and find fault. They seldom affirm or talk about positive virtues of other people. They rarely acknowledge the good things happening in the world or in the church or in their family. They are experts at […]

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